A local story about a high school "Gender Bender Day" prompted me to do a little internet research on the topic. The craze is sweeping the nation's high schools from Michigan to Iowa to North Carolina. On "Gender Bender Day" high school students are encouraged to cross-dress and imagine themselves as transvestites. I'm unclear as to whether the cross-dressing is voluntary or mandatory. In Fayetteville, North Carolina a homosexual student was actually arrested for resisting the dress requirements: those for whom every day is a gender bender seem to want the day off. Here's what it looks like at Santa Teresa High School in San Jose:
So, are these gender-bending events just campy innocent fun? Not so fast. Here's what purports to be a gender "education" video produced for schools in the state of Maine:
Park Day Elementary School in Oakland, California, now has an aggressive policy of official androgyny:
Park Day's staff members are among a growing number of educators and parents who are acknowledging gender variance in very young children. Aurora School, another private elementary school in Oakland, also is seeing children who are "gender fluid" and hired a clinical psychologist to conduct staff training.
Children with gender variant behaviors feel intensely that they want to look and act like the other sex. They prefer toys and activities typical of the opposite gender. Signs usually start appearing between the ages of 2 and 4.
For some children, it's a passing phase. Some grow up to be heterosexual, some gay. Some children insist they are the opposite sex although they might have a hard time explaining it. One nurse therapist said a boy once told her, "I think I swallowed a girl."
"The point is we don't know the outcome and don't need to know," said Catherine Tuerk, who runs the gender variance outreach program at Children's National Medical Center in Washington, D.C., considered a leader in the field.
"What we need is a place where children can express what they want to," said Tuerk, who has been working on gender variance for three decades.
Obviously there is an agenda at work here. The sheer diabolical malice of the whole "gender bending" project can be seen in the misery and confusion it inflicts on the young and the immoral sexual behavior it sanctions. Due to family dysfunction and the rise of "gender neutral" parenting, many children are already disadvantaged in terms of a healthy sexual identity, and today they arrive at school only to be affirmed in their confusion.
The good news is that what might be termed "gender identity disorder" in children can usually be prevented and even reversed with early intervention and the presence of key elements:
Healthy psychological development requires that a little boy be able to feel acceptance by and identify with his father, experience acceptance by male peers, recognize that there are two sexes and that he is male and will grow up to be a man and possibly a father, not a woman and a mother. Additionally he needs to feel good about his body and about being a boy and becoming a man. He needs to believe that his mother and father are happy that he is a boy and expect him to become a man and he needs to feel accepted as a boy by other boys.
If a boy feels inadequate in his masculine identity due to peer or father rejection or a poor body image, identifies with his mother instead of his father, feels that he would like to be a girl, those around him should not pass this off as non-stereotypical behavior. There is a reason why this boy is not developing a healthy masculine identity and that reason should be discovered and addressed.
If a boy grows up at ease and confident about his masculine identity as a result of a close loving relationship with his father, with same-sex friends in childhood, with a mother who supports his manly development and is protected from vicious bullying and sexual predators, the chances are minimal that he will experience same-sex attraction in adolescence.
And in this endeavor, dear parents, the schools are no longer your friend.