Some of you may have heard something about the case of George DeLury and how he "assisted" the "suicide" of his wife, Myrna Lebov, back in 1995. DeLury eventually got away with a plea bargain to attempted manslaughter and spent only a few months in jail. He was the darling of the assisted suicide movement. Then came the rest of the story, which Wesley J. Smith tells better than I could: How DeLury was furious whenever his wife was happy, how he relentlessly and angrily pressured her into agreeing to take the overdose he had saved up for her by underdosing her on her antidepressant medication, and how he wrote and then showed to her the following,
I have work to do, people to see, places to travel. But no one asks about my needs. I have fallen prey to the tyranny of a victim. You are sucking my life out of my [sic] like a vampire and nobody cares. In fact, it would appear that I am about to be cast in the role of villain because I no longer believe in you.
Husband of the year. Eventually, Myrna caved in and took the overdose.
What I only recently learned (though the information has been available all along) is that that wasn't enough for DeLury. Afraid that she wouldn't die, he put a plastic bag over her head and smothered her. But as this information did not come out until after the plea bargain had gone through, double jeopardy prevented his being charged with direct murder. In 2007, DeLury killed himself.
I have to wonder. What do people who defend Michael Bateman think of George DeLury? Bateman also killed his wife with a plastic bag, but as far as we presently know, she was actually willing to be killed. Lebov was ambivalent and was pressured into swallowing pills by DeLury, who then added the plastic bag for good measure. Do defenders of Bateman recognize the evil of the psychological abuse and eventual killing carried out by DeLury? I'm not saying that's a formally inconsistent position. I'm wondering at what point the alarm bells go off.